“Regret is a terrible thing. Don’t take the great people in your life for granted, otherwise you might lose them.”
I’m not sure why so many people seem to struggle with this, as it really isn’t a difficult concept – respect and appreciate the great people in your life, and you won’t lose them. Unfortunately, it seems to derive from the lack of focus on the entirety of life, and a more superficial, and shortsighted, reaction to impulse.
Impulses can be exhilarating. Impulses can drive great moments in your life. Impulses, however, should be the byproduct of an overall goal or scheme in life. It’s easy to forget the whole picture when you make individual decisions – whether or not to ignore a phone call, go on a trip, or write an e-mail. You must remain focused and vigilant on achieving the things in life that will ultimately make you happiest.
Hypocrisy is unfortunately too abundant when it comes to decision making compared to proclamations of lifetime goals. I can’t count how many people I’ve run across who complain about wanting to travel, or move to another part of the country, or change their jobs; yet when it comes time to make decisions to improve their condition, they are stagnant.
The more long-term the goal, the more ridiculous the hypocrisy becomes. I’d argue that a majority of the population shares a goal: have a successful career, be treated well by a loving husband or wife, and raise a happy and healthy family. I say majority since there are always outliers, but I’m not exactly going too far out on a limb making the assumption that I have. So often have I seen this goal stated – vehemently, loudly, and robustly. Lamentations of failure relating to achieving that goal might be the only thing ballyhooed more loudly and more frequently than the desire to obtain it.
If you state or claim your goals to be those that I listed prior – then make decisions that align with those goals. Don’t pursue someone superficially when you state your desire is for depth and quality of character. Don’t forgive or acquiesce to the desires of those individuals you meet that have poor character. Making excuses for poor character in those you trust or pursue is nearly as bad as having poor character yourself. Lastly, and most importantly, do not take for granted the opportunities you have in life to enjoy and appreciate the amazing, high moral character, kind people in your life.
Great people are rare. Mediocre and terrible people are in abundance. Hold on to those great individuals as tightly as you can – and never take them for granted.